Don’t rush the sex. Getting back into the swing of things takes time. You may feel tired and sore and not ready for sex, and you may feel guilty for not being ready. Your partner may worry about hurting you during sex. Try other ways of sharing intimacy during the tran­sition period after delivery.

Caution: If you’re having serious relationship problems after the baby is born, consider seeing a family therapist to help you work through your issues.

Quick Tip: Off the Pedestal

My husband had trouble getting back into sex after the baby came. When I asked him what was wrong, he said he was having trouble with the “mother” image of me. I was no longer his sexy wife; I was a responsible and maternal woman. We had a long talk about this. I tried to convince him that nothing had changed, but he was still hesitant in his lovemaking. Finally, I got a babysitter, rented a hotel room, kidnapped my husband, and spent the night reminding him of the sexy woman I was and hope­fully always will be.

 

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