Have you ever said to yourself or to someone else, “I wish I knew what I really want”?

Or have you ever said to yourself “I’ll never get what I need. Nobody cares. I might as well give up”?

Do you ever wonder how your life would be different if you could just find inner peace instead of turmoil?

Do you ever feel as if you’re not put together in the right way, and you don’t know what the right way is?

If so, it’s time to discover more about what the child part of you needed and wanted when you were a child. Knowing that will give you more freedom to be who you want to be and to do what you want to do. It will give you more freedom to get on with your life.

The ability of any child to be creative, spontaneous, autonomous, and also able to feel close to others is usually directly affected by childhood authorities who have the power to create what feels like either a prison or an open healthy world.

It’s hard to be happy until you have freed yourself from some of the pain of the past. Yet, it’s never too late to start this process. You begin by discovering how you shaped your needs and want to please authority figures; how you learned to comply, rebel, or procrastinate around authorities; and how you may still do the same—at least sometimes—in your current life.

This inner part of your personality has much to tell you about specific needs and wants. With this knowledge, you can learn to function as a liberating parent, an encouraging coach, and a knowledgeable mentor. Each role can help in your pursuit of happiness.

Everyone hopes to be loved, and this hope, for many people, is realized. Love is life-giving: it heals, it liberates, and, in its best forms, it is intense, durable, and unconditional. Genuine love makes us capable of sacrifice when sacrifice is needed and is offered without exploitation. It is goodwill freely given, asking nothing in return.

Attachment is not the same as love. People are often legally or emotionally attached to others they do not even like or respect. It is a tragedy when there is no love between parents and their children. Children are born to love and be loved.

Unfortunately, for a variety of reasons, parents may treat their children so that the children do not feel lovable or loving. Disliking and even hating themselves, these children can get into patterns of self-destructiveness or lash out to inflict damage on objects or pets or people. Those who experience too much physical or emotional pain do not believe in the miracle of love. They need to be healed with the kind of love that gives them protection and permission. If this healing succeeds, it can release, at any time during their lives, their capacity to be loving and allow them to claim the birthright of being loved.

Parents who expect appreciation or high performance from children as payment for “loving” them pollute the relationship, much as clear water can be polluted. The new internal Parent must be able to love without exploiting the inner Child.

Related posts:

1. The basics of how good parenting makes their children happy by demonstrating love

2. The basics of listening to yourself with love – how needs and wants are adapted

3. The basics of how to be happy – tough love and tender love

4. The basics of being happy – listening to self-talk

5. Parenting Tips – Unconditional Love Is The Gift You Can Afford

6. The basics of how to listen to yourself with love – the importance of touch

7. The basics of love and happiness – negative influence of parental injunctions

8. Stress and Children – When Problems Arise With Children

9. The Fuss Free School Of Parenting

10. The Basics of Motivating Oneself for Self-Reparenting