Everyone was once an infant and may occasionally respond to life experiences totally at the feeling level—nonverbally, with cries, screams, or gurgles of delight.

Such regression can occur during times of stress or crisis, when a person may feel helpless, unable to think or even talk. Reliving traumatic childhood experiences, perhaps in trance or hypnotic states, may also induce regression. At such times the person may feel totally incapacitated and unable to take appropriate action. The Child who has no words needs an inner Parent who is encouraging and supportive instead of critical or sadistic.

During the time the new Parent is being constructed, the rational, clear-thinking Adult part of the personality must be in charge. The new Parent under construction is unable to provide enough protection and support. The logical thought, analysis of a situation, and a safe resolution of difficulties must be provided by the Adult ego state in order to protect the Child. It must not seem to be deserting or abandoning the Child. The inner Child will know if that occurs and will return to its previous unhappy state.

To avoid this, a person’s Adult needs to be in continuing contact with the Child, offering logical and sane resolution methods to challenging situations that may arise. Sometimes it helps people to hold a pillow in their arms and rock back and forth. This is an aid to the Child, who begins to experience (or re-experience) much-needed nurturing and the support of a loving new Parent.

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