The search for Mr. or Ms Absolutely Right
ByLet’s get serious about searching for Mr. or Ms Absolutely Right. To start with, we need to find out more about your ideal partner and then it will be necessary to gently probe your lifestyle to see what changes, if any, you should make in order to leap, lurch or launch yourself on to the dating scene. We need to do some sober thinking in order to take strategic action, so ask yourself three simple but vital questions:
1 Who am I looking for?
2 Why?
3 Where am I going to find this person?
The answers to questions 1 and 2 might seem blatantly obvious to yon, but we are leaving nothing to chance. You need to know what you want before you can be sure of getting it. You also need to be able to recognize it when it’s staring you in the face. Otherwise, you could find yourself missing opportunity after opportunity, or, even worse – when the intoxication of love clears sufficiently for you to see what you have done – you might be with someone who is no good for you and you will be responsible for the mess, as you didn’t do the necessary groundwork in a crucial area of your life.
So that you do not suffer this terrible fate (the divorced, jilted and trapped will know that I do not exaggerate), I want you to fist, in order of importance, five qualities that you rate highly in a potential partner. If you normally just go out on spec, trusting in fete to deliver your perfect partner now is the time to wise-up unless you’re looking for a one-nighter or a dead-end romance.
Do not take more than 60 seconds to complete this task. When your list is complete, remind yourself exactly why it is you are looking for someone to love. You can take as long as you like over that one.
The five most important qualities that I shall look for when dating are:
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THE SEARCH FOR MR OR MS ABSOLUTELY RIGHT
Why do I want someone to love and someone to love me in a permanent relationship?
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There is no right or wrong list of qualities or reasons to love because we are unique and different individuals. The sole purpose of this exercise has been to concentrate your mind on your priorities.
Now that you have answered two of the three questions at the start of this article: Who am I looking for, and Why? the time has come to address the final question: Where am I going to find this person? The choices are laid out for you but first, let’s get a grip on the relative ease or complexity of the task at hand. Then it will be up to you to decide whether you want to do things the countdown way or make hard work of it.
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